Arguments over abstinence-only and comprehensive sex education have dominated the U.S. for a long time. However different or similar these types of sex ed may be, they definitely have one thing in common: they’re failing us.

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Despite the federal government putting millions of dollars of faith into abstinence-only education, it has been proven time and time again to be ineffective and actually quite dangerous. Over the past 20 years, studies have proven that abstinence-only education is not effective when it comes to pregnancy and STIs. This is because often with abstinence education they fail to educate students about contraceptives such as condoms or birth control. In theory, abstinence is more effective than contraceptives, but that’s only true when students remain abstinent, and oftentimes they do not.

Abstinence-only education also stigmatizes sex. By promoting abstinence until marriage…


Starting around May, many corporations and businesses start donning their pride merch and break their rainbow flags out of the closet. But what are they actually doing to support the community besides changing their trademark logos to rainbow?

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While some companies actively advocate for and support the community, many do it for the clout of pride month. It can be a bit hard to navigate, so here is a guide to help navigate the “corporate pride” scene that emerges for pride month.

H&M

H&M is launching a high-tech “Beyond the Rainbow’’ campaign that highlights the life stories of LGBTQ+ people. The campaign also shares the stories of some H&M employees and what pride means to them. While visibility and story sharing is important to the community, so are donations and funding to the many wonderful nonprofits that do…


Pride month is almost here! What better way to anticipate and celebrate than to expand your library with some great queer reads? Here is a list of 17 books to check out for Pride Month.

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1- Call Me By Your Name by André Aciman

Call Me By Your Name is a great summer read for those who love love. The book follows Elio, a 17 year old at his parents’ summer house in Italy, and Oliver, their 24 year old house guest, over the course of six weeks. 10/10 would recommend reading this on a beach.

2- Find Me by André Aciman

Find Me is a continuation of Call Me By Your Name set many years forward. This book encapsulates the idea of true and destined love. …


Being a “straight passing” LGBTQ+ person isn’t a privilege, its invisibility

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“He’s not that type of gay. I like how he’s not in your face about it, you would think he was straight.”

For many years, members of the LGBTQ+ community have been assumed to be gay based on stereotypes such as their clothes and mannerisms. While some gay men fit some stereotypes, it is inherently wrong to assume someone’s sexuality based on just checking some boxes. Queer people are not all the same, and shouldn’t be treated as such. We come in all colors of the rainbow. …


Celebrating pride may look different this year depending on the city or state you live in, but don’t let that affect how involved you feel. Through the various virtual and in-person events offered around the country, take advantage of Pride 2021, just don’t forget to stay safe, healthy, and conscious of others.

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Virtual and in-person events

While some major cities may not be hosting their famous pride parades for the second year in a row, don’t let that rain on your parade. Smaller companies and businesses may be hosting more low-key events in your area. Try researching events going on in your city at local businesses (and don’t forget to support those local businesses!). Just be sure to always wear a mask, sanitize your hands, and social distance.

If you don’t feel comfortable participating in smaller outdoor events no worries! There are still a fair share of virtual events going on throughout…


Not only is inter-community support important to LGBTQ+ people, but support from non-queer friends and family is too. Being a good ally to your LGBTQ+ loved ones is crucial, and can sometimes be a bit tricky to navigate. So to try and help out, here are some tips on how to be a good ally.

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You can sympathize, but not empathize

A lot of the time, LGBTQ+ people have unique experiences and feelings about their queer identities that you won’t understand or encounter yourself, so don’t pretend to. Some of these struggles include internalized homophobia and coming out to family and friends. Being able to listen to the LGBTQ+ people in your life and provide support for them is important, but it’s also important to understand that you won’t know exactly what they are going through, and that’s okay.

As an ally, there is plenty else you can do to help out the queer people…


Schitt’s Creek has redefined the meaning of positive representation of queer characters and life

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We’ve spoken before about the evolution and powers of queer representation in media, but a certain Canadian comedy has seriously changed the game. Schitt’s Creek has redefined the meaning of positive representation of queer characters and life. The fresh perspective of queer people, relationships, and success have left a lasting impact on viewers despite the shows ending in 2020. This post contains spoilers about the final few seasons of the show, so if you haven’t watched yet, first of all: why not, and second of all: read at your own discretion.

Unlike many other shows with LGBTQ+ protagonists, David’s sexuality…


If you haven’t seen the movie Pride, you may be unfamiliar with the civil rights group Lesbians and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM). The story of LGSM is an inspiring tale of solidarity, acceptance, and empathy. While it may seem like an unlikely duo, the striking miners and a group of LGBTQ+ individuals united and supported each other during trying times for both groups under the Thatcher government in the U.K.

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In 1984, a plan was announced by the National Coal Board to cut the nation’s output by 4 million tons, resulting in the planned closure of 20 pits and the loss of 20,000 jobs. Workers at one site walked out on the job, the president of the National Union of Miners took this as a sign to begin a nationwide strike. The striking miners faced police brutality, similarly to the same brutality faced by LGBTQ+ people protesting unjust and discriminatory laws.

One of the founders of LGSM, Ray Goodspeed, was reminded of his childhood during these strikes, as his father…


In the past 60 years, there have been many landmark casings and rulings in favor of the LGBTQ+ community. While there are still a ways to go with universal discrimination laws in this country, it’s important to look back on the past to appreciate how far we have come.

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Gay and Disorderly

Many see Stonewall as the beginning to the gay rights movement, but not everyone knows that the whole ordeal started over something as silly as liquor licenses. After the prohibition ended, new legislation was written that curbed the selling of liquor. The rewording of this legislature was outright transphobic and homophobic. Legislation classified “female impersonators” with common criminals and prohibited their service. After a few years, queer people won the right to drink in bars, as long as they didn’t express their queer identity as it was labelled “disorderly”. Kissing and dancing became criminally punishable acts for…


From the first pro-gay film ever made in 1919, Different from the Others, to the first mainstream teen romcom to feature a gay lead made in 2018, Love, Simon, queer media representation has had a long and struggle-filled history. Throughout the last 100 years, queer representation has shifted to reflect societies values and opinions of LGBTQ+ people.

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The 60's

During the 1960s, Hollywood’s portrayal of LGBTQ+ characters was increasingly negative because at the time, “sexual perversion” was allowed to be depicted in films as long as it was portrayed in a negative manner. Because being LGBTQ+ was still classified as a mental illness during this time, it fit the bill to portray our community as “villainous” and “psychopathic”. These representations harmed the members of our community because they allowed the spread and validation of harmful and false ideas.

After Stonewall

After the Stonewall Riots, more movies and tv shows depicting LGBTQ+ people in a relatively positive manner…

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